Q: I started planning my wedding before the pandemic, but once COVID hit everything changed. We postponed, then postponed again. This whole time I’ve kept planning because it gave me something to do and to be excited about. But recently I had to stop. I’ve been feeling depressed and just couldn’t keep planning my wedding. A wedding just seems so trivial given everything going on. Is it ok to just stop planning? Or should I try to keep going?
I’m sorry that you’re feeling depressed. Honestly, we’re all feeling that way. So, it’s not just you.
The world is a crazy, uncertain, frustrating, stressful, sad and overwhelming place right now.
And it’s hard to do anything. Let alone wedding planning.
So, it is totally and completely ok if you need to stop planning your wedding.
While there is nothing wrong with continuing to plan your wedding, there is also nothing wrong with stopping.
You have a lot to deal with and if planning your wedding isn’t helping, don’t do it. You don’t need more stress in your life.
So, take a break from wedding planning until you feel like picking it up again.
And unless you’re planning on getting married soon, you likely have lots of time to get your planning done.
So, don’t worry about falling behind. You have time!
And it will be so much easier to plan your wedding when you feel like it. You’ll make better decisions and be happier with the wedding you create when you’re into it.
But what happens if a break isn’t enough?
If things have changed, it’s possible that planning a wedding might not make sense anymore. At least not right now.
Maybe you no longer want the big wedding. Or maybe your personal situation has changed. Maybe you don’t want a wedding until it’s completely safe. Or maybe you want to get married now.
Whatever the reason, you can also put planning on hold for the foreseeable future if needed.
This is totally and completely ok too.
We are living in times where you really need to just focus on your wellbeing.
That always comes first. So, if wedding planning during COVID is not helping or is making things worse, stop. Either temporarily or for a while.
And if you find that wedding planning does help, go for it!
As you said, it can be something for you to focus on and get you excited for the future. Which honestly, we can all use more of in these difficult times.
But, whatever you decide to do, there is one important thing you need to remember.
Your wedding matters.
It still matters even though there are huge worldwide issues happening right now.
And while planning a wedding can seem trivial or silly given the bigger issues in the world, it’s not silly.
It’s a happy thing that should be celebrated.
You can still care about everything happening in the world and also want to celebrate what is a very big life choice.
Wedding planning during COVID can be helpful and give you purpose, but it can also just be too much. If you need to take a break whether a short or long one, do it.
Your wellness and wellbeing is always much more important than wedding planning.
But, also don’t feel bad about planning a wedding or wanting to celebrate. It’s still a momentous and important occasion during these crazy times.
We know planning a wedding right now is difficult. If you need some help or guidance, contact us. We offer wedding rescue hours in addition to our full range of planning services.
You don’t have to go through this alone, let us help.