If you’re an engaged couple, planning a wedding is hard. But, if you’re a same sex couple, planning a wedding has even more complications and challenges.
It shouldn’t, but it does.
And when you throw a destination wedding into the mix, it can be even trickier.
It’s a lot to handle. So, here are 5 helpful tips to plan a same sex destination wedding.
And even if you aren’t having a same sex wedding, these tips can also be helpful for your destination wedding and the choices you make.
5 Helpful Planning Tips For A Same Sex Destination Wedding
#1 – Choose a Country and City Where Same Sex Marriage is Legal
So first things, first. You want to choose a country and city (and town even) that is LGBTQ friendly and where same sex marriage is legal. Think Amsterdam, San Francisco, Vancouver, etc…
Even if you decide to get legally married in your hometown and not at your destination, it will be much easier to plan a wedding in a location that recognizes same sex marriage.
Because you’ll have access to more vendors who are also LGBTQ friendly. And the local people will be more welcoming. Looks you get on your wedding day will be ones of love and excitement, not criticizing.
#2 – Choose a Venue Where You Can Be You
It’s so important that your wedding venue, where you actually have the wedding, is a place of safety. A place you feel comfortable.
Whether that’s a resort, a stretch of beach, a private estate, a restaurant, etc… You need to be able to be yourselves.
This is such a beautiful moment you’re sharing with the one you love. It has to be in a place of safety and support.
So, choose your venue wisely. Talk to them to make sure the owners, staff, fellow patrons, etc… are all supportive and excited.
#3 – Choose Vendors Who are LGBTQ Friendly
Like your destination location and your venue, having a team of wedding vendors who support your marriage is so important.
Finding wedding vendors who showcase gay couples on their website is helpful because it’s obvious that they’re open and supportive. But, just because they don’t, doesn’t mean they aren’t. And on the flip side, just because someone does gay weddings frequently doesn’t mean they’re right for you.
So, start by taking a look at their philosophy first and make sure it coincides with your own. Then take a look at their work and see if it’s in line with what you’re looking for. Then talk to them!
Make sure they’re not only LBGTQ friendly, but that they’re professional, they care and they understand what you’re looking for.
#4 – Be Honest and Upfront
Unless you’re working with an exclusive LGBTQ company, it’s important that you’re upfront and honest with everyone you talk to. Just come right out and say it.
Because they need to know who you are and that you’re planning a same sex destination wedding.
And this especially applies if you’re planning an international same sex destination wedding. Because with language (and cultural) differences, you don’t want anyone to be surprised that you’re not a heterosexual couple come your wedding day.
Now, this isn’t something you should have to do. But, it ensures that you won’t get a surprised looks or come across any last minute issues. And it’s a part of making sure you hire vendors who are the right fit.
#5 – Invite Only Those Who Support You and Your Relationship
Your wedding is a celebration. A celebration of your love and sharing that with those you love.
This is a time to be surrounded by people who love and support you.
And while it’s the same for heterosexual couples, there can be extra family issues you have to deal with. So, take this opportunity to only invite those who are supportive of you and your relationship.
Only invite those who will honestly be excited to see you get married.
And if that ends up being all friends, that’s ok. Do what feels good and right for you.
Planning a same sex destination wedding is challenging. There are extra complications and issues you’ll face. But using these 5 planning tips will help make planning your wedding much easier.
And if you aren’t having a same sex wedding, but want to support your fellow LGBTQ friends, put your money towards businesses who are supportive.
It will bring more business to those places and people with the same beliefs and values.
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