The other day I was driving and my oil light came on. And my first reaction was to groan.
I’m not a car person. I don’t know anything about cars beyond how to drive them. And which ones I like and don’t like. Beyond that I’m pretty car ignorant.
So, when I have to do something to fix my car, it’s not my favorite thing. Because it’s just not my wheelhouse.
We all have strengths and weaknesses. Things we’re good at and things we aren’t. Things that come easy or hard.
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Numbers are easy for an accountant, but it doesn’t mean they’re great at explaining them. Athletes are coordinated, but it doesn’t mean they can dance.
Over the course of 9+ years, I’ve found that every engaged couple I work with has at least one thing that they struggle with. One thing that is difficult for them. One thing that is their personal wedding struggle.
And this wedding struggle can make you feel anxious. It can stress you out and weigh on you. It can make you not want to have a wedding at all.
So, if you’ve been feeling similarly, it’s not just you. It’s every couple. Everyone has something that challenges them.
For some couples it’s decision making. For others it’s their parents. Some couples want different things. Others have a hard time staying organized. Some obsess over everything.
It’s totally normal to have a personal wedding struggle. Something that just makes wedding planning harder for you.
Because weddings are emotional. You’re dealing with a lot of opinions. There is a time crunch factor. It’s a once in a lifetime event. And you’re doing something for the first time and that’s always hard.
All of this makes planning your wedding difficult. But coupled with your personal struggle, it makes it extra hard.
So, first off, know that having a personal wedding struggle is ok.
And second, there is something you can do about it. Whatever it is that you’re struggling with, face it head on. The longer you wait to address it, the harder and more painful it will get.
It’s like entering a maze. In the beginning you can easily find your way back out. But, the farther in you go, the harder and more lost you become.
If you don’t fix it now, your wedding struggle will only get worse as time goes on. Because wedding planning doesn’t get easier, it just evolves.
So, face your wedding struggle! And find a solution to make it easier.
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So, if decisions are your problem, narrow your choices. If you’re butting heads with your parents, sit down, talk about it and come to an understanding. If you’re not on the same page with your partner, compromise and find common ground. Or if organization is your problem, find a way to get organized. Maybe that’s hiring a wedding planner.
There is a solution to help with your wedding struggle. Now I’m not saying it will go away completely or immediately (although it might), but it can only get better if you work to make it better.
Try something new and see if it works. You’ll only be helping yourself in the long run.
And if you don’t know what your struggle is, but you’re just struggling, get some help! Contact us here and we’ll make it better.