Wedding Wednesdays Q&A: Who to Send a Save the Date To

Wedding Wednesdays Q&A answered by Destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

Q: I’m having a hometown wedding and my friend the other day asked me if we’re sending save the dates.  It didn’t even occur to me that we should.  It’s not very customary here as I’ve never received one.  But, should I be sending save the dates?  And who would those be sent to?  I’m thinking of only sending to those who are coming from out of town.  Is that ok?

Great question!  So, first off, here’s some background info on save the dates.  Their purpose is to give people advance notice of when you’re getting married so they can reserve it in their calendars.  Hence, save the date.

They are helpful for all guests, but they’re most helpful and necessary for those who will be traveling.  For a destination wedding, that’s everyone.  For a hometown wedding, that may be no one or just a handful.   The save the date gives them time to plan ahead, take time off, book flights, etc…

Save the dates are usually connected to a wedding website.  They really go hand in hand because your wedding website is meant to share more information with people.   So, your guests receive the save the date and then go to your website to get more information.  This could be info about you two, travel info and/or anything else you need to or want to share.

So, if you’re having a website, your save the date is a great vehicle to get the word out about your website.  Otherwise, people won’t really know about it until the invitation.  If you aren’t doing a website, then a save the date is likely less necessary.

So, that’s the background info to help give you an idea of what it is and why you’d do it.  Now let’s now talk about your specific question.

For a hometown wedding, many times save the dates and websites aren’t necessary.  Which is likely why you’ve never thought about it or received one.  However, as I mentioned before it can be helpful.

If you’re going to send them, the most important people you’d want to send to are those coming from out of town.  So, you’re totally correct in your thinking!  And you certainly can send save the dates to just your out of towners.

Now do you need a website?  You didn’t initially ask this question, but since the two go hand in hand I want to make sure you have the info you need.  You only really need a website if those out of town people need direction.  For example, places to stay, what airport to fly into or whether they need to rent a car or not.  If not, then a website likely isn’t as necessary.  Of course, you can still have one if you want.

Now the one warning I’d give is if you’re considering sending a save the date to anyone else (who is not traveling).  If this is the case, you’ll want to send one to everyone you’re inviting.  And it’s mainly because you don’t want a situation where someone feels left out.  When you send it to just out of town guests, that makes sense.  But, if you start sending to some in your hometown, but not others, that can get sticky.

Save the dates and wedding websites can be a useful tool for you and your guests.  Whether you send one or not depends on your guests and what information you need to share.

Custom save the dates created by Designs des Troy for a Lake wedding

(Photo credit: Designs des Troy)

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