I was recently in Scotland mainly for work but with a little play time on the side. So of course, I was in work mode during the trip which basically means I’m always “on”. But, there was a moment when I stumbled across these musicians playing a free concert as a part of the Fringe festival. They were local musicians and they were amazing. So, I stopped and just watched them for 20 minutes.
There was nothing else in my mind beyond enjoying their music and their craft. And after their performance, I felt rejuvenated and excited.
I was rejuvenated because I gave myself space.
(This is another moment I took to just enjoy Loch Ness and the view)
We live in a crazy world. And our lives are crazy. It’s like we’re constantly running from one thing to the next. Every moment of every day is busy with something. It’s work, or it’s working out or it’s checking Instagram or planning your wedding. We’re so connected. Not just to people, but to things.
I find myself always checking email and there are days where I feel like a slave to social media. When I travel, there is always a work element involved. Don’t get me wrong, it’s fabulous and I’m so lucky. But, the reality is that it also means that I’m never on vacation.
I’m always going, going, going and so I forget. But, it’s so important to get some space. Space from work and kids and your to do list.
I know wedding planning in an of itself is a stressful task. But, coupled with your job, adult responsibilities and just life in general, it’s hard. There is always something to do.
But, it’s so important to find space and take a wedding planning break not just for yourself, but for the two of you. You need time to be together, to go on a date, to laugh about nothing. You need time to breathe, to forget about everything else and just live.
(Photo credit: Jerry Yoon Photographers)
So, I challenge you (and myself) to find space every day. It doesn’t have to be for long periods time, but, moments where you can just be. Moments where you’re not worrying or thinking about the next thing you need to do. Maybe it’s when you sit together and have morning coffee. Maybe it’s over lunch in the park or the 10 minutes before you go to bed.
If you give yourself time to slow down, you’ll feel more excited, more energized and happier. And if you’re happier, everything else becomes easier. Just think about it. When you’re feeling good, doesn’t everything else just work out a little better?
And then your small daily spaces coupled with larger spaces like a going hiking or a weekend getaway or a trip to a museum will only improve life.
Give your mind, your body and your soul a break. I feel so much better when I do. You will too and it will make everything else you have to do easier, including planning your wedding.
(Photo credit: Rachel Robertson Photography)