Wedding Mistakes Happen, Here’s What To Do

I woke up the other day to a distressing email asking if I was ok.

This was an email from the owner of a rental home I was renting for an upcoming trip.

They were worried because I hadn’t shown up.  I immediately thought they must be confused because my trip isn’t for another month and I wrote back as such.

Then the wheels started turning and I decided to double check my reservation.  Lo and behold, I had reserved it for July, not August.

My first thought was, that must be a mistake there is no way I’d reserve it for the wrong dates.  Then my second thought was, I am such an idiot.

I swear I choose the right dates.  But, apparently, that was not the case.  And I obviously didn’t double check or see the mistake when it was confirmed.  Stupid me.

I’m beating myself up about it and all the money I’ve just wasted.  And I nervously call my husband to tell him about the big mistake I made.

Surprisingly he shrugs it off, saying “Eh, it’s ok.  It can happen to anyone.”

When you make a mistake, we’re always harder on ourselves than anyone else is.  

When I think about it if he had made the same mistake, I’d have the same reaction as him.

Because we’re all human.

No matter how good of a planner you are, how meticulous or detail-oriented, you’re still human.  And as humans we make mistakes.  ALL THE TIME.

Sometimes it’s small mistakes, sometimes it’s big ones.  Sometimes you lose money and other times just your pride.

(Photo credit: Christie Pham Photography)

I have lots of couples who’ve come to me because they’ve made a wedding mistake.  They hired the wrong vendor or they picked the wrong items.  They totally forgot they needed something or mistakenly got something they didn’t need.

They’re always a bit frustrated and angry with themselves.  And I can’t blame them because I’m obviously the same way.

But, here’s the thing –  you need to be forgiving of yourself.  Wedding mistakes happen no matter how careful you are and how much you double check.

No one is perfect.  You aren’t perfect, your partner isn’t, your coworkers aren’t and neither are your wedding vendors.  We’re all human.

Mistakes just happen.  They happen to everyone.  So, forgive yourself.

Really, it’s ok.  Take a breath and know that you’ll be ok.  Beating yourself up doesn’t solve anything.  Accept your mistake and move on.

This applies not only to your wedding and wedding planning but to life.  Mistakes will happen, but you’re going to be ok.

And know that there is always a solution right around the corner.  Because there always is.  In my case, after I took a breath, two very friendly people helped me to sort everything out.

(Photo credit: Christie Pham Photography)

Now I’d love to hear from you.  What’s one mistake you’ve made recently?  Here’s your chance to share it and then get rid of it and move on.  I’m here to support you as always.

And if you have a question about a mistake you’re dealing with right now, please ask it in a comment below.  I want to make sure you’re getting all the help you need.