The Most Important Thing You Must Do After You Get Engaged

Happy New Year!  I hope you had an amazing holiday season and welcome to 2017!  If you’re newly engaged, a huge congrats!  If I could give you a big hug, I would.  I’m so happy and excited for you and for all that is to come.  And I’m sure you are too!

But, before we get into all the wedding stuff (and don’t worry we’ll take care of you) there is one crucial thing that you must do after you get engaged.  It’s not telling your family and friends.  It’s not shouting it out on social media.  Are you ready?  The most important thing you must do after you get engaged is taking the time to enjoy being engaged.  

Newly engaged couple enjoying a moment in San Francisco's Golden Gate Park

(Photo credit: Kate Webber)

Surprised?  I know, it sounds basic, but it’s so important.  It’s crucial that you enjoy your engagement, the wedding planning process and your wedding.  There’s no point in doing any of it unless it’s a joyful thing.  Why spend the time, money and effort unless the process and the experience is a happy one?

And what sets up a joyful experience is taking the time to just be engaged.  Not picking a date, not answering questions, not figuring out a guest list.  Just being with your new fiancé and enjoying this new place you now are. Enjoying your engagement means you’re celebrating the idea that you’ve found each other and have chosen each other.

When you celebrate your engagement you’re just being you with no agenda, no decisions, no pressure.  It’s just you two together.  Just you being you and being happy.  Your engagement is such a happy moment and a happy time.  Enjoy that and soak it up until you feel ready for the wedding stuff.  Don’t rush into it.

If you really want to dive into wedding planning, that’s great!  But, still take the time to just be.  There’s no time requirement here, do what feels right for you.  That could be a day or a week or a month or 6 months.  But, it’s important you take this time for yourselves.

Take the time to enjoy and celebrate this huge and awesome choice you’ve made.  Take the time to enjoy the love and joy you feel.  Because while wedding planning is still joyful, it comes with tasks and things you’ll need to do.  Enjoying your engagement is not about that.  This is the time for you to not think and not worry about things like the budget, or vendors or your design.  This is the time for you to be happy and celebrate your love.

When you take this time, you’re not only giving yourself time to adjust but getting ready for the wedding.  So that once you start wedding planning you’re ready and excited for it.  It’s like starting the day with a good night’s sleep.  Taking the time to enjoy your engagement is the fuel and energy and excitement that will make wedding planning way more joyful.

So whether you just got engaged yesterday or over the holidays, make sure you take this time and really enjoy your engagement before diving into wedding planning.  Love, laugh and be merry.

Couple dancing after their wedding at destination wedding in San Francisco.

(Photo credit: Jerry Yoon Photographers)

And when you’re ready to start planning your wedding, know that I’m here to help and support you.  Happy Engagement!


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