Q: I read somewhere that I need to have wedding ceremony ushers. Is this really necessary? This seems silly. Can’t people find their seats themselves?
Before I answer your question, I think it’s important to discuss what wedding ceremony ushers do so you can understand if it makes sense for you. So, having ushers at your wedding ceremony is one of those older practices. Their purpose was to greet guests at the front of the church and help them find their seat. Typically ushers were male and thus they provided the gentlemanly act of seating a lady.
A good way to think about ushers is to equate the role to a host or hostess at a restaurant. They greet you, seat you, give you your menus and wish you a good meal. Your wedding ceremony ushers are very similar. They greet you, seat you, give you a program and leave you to enjoy the ceremony.
So, to answer your question, do you need wedding ushers? The answer is no. No, you don’t, especially if you don’t care about where your guests are seated. You are totally right and your guests can find their own seat. But, I would think about your particular wedding ceremony and whether ushers would be helpful. Let me give you some examples of when wedding ceremony ushers are useful:
If your ceremony location is a bit hard to find, ushers can direct guests. They can greet people at the parking lot or property entrance and direct people to the right area.
If your ceremony setup is a bit different, ushers can be a guide. Guests may not know what to do if your ceremony chairs are in a circle or if there are no chairs. Ushers can help to guide them, so they aren’t confused.
If your ceremony is religious or cultural, ushers can tell them what to do. Guests who aren’t familiar with your religious or cultural ceremony will have no idea what they are supposed to do. Ushers can give your guests information and directions, so they don’t mistakenly do something wrong.
Those are just a few examples, but you’ll want to think about your particular wedding ceremony. Think about if there is anything confusing that your guests will encounter. If so, then this is when having wedding ceremony ushers can come in handy.
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