When it comes to wedding planning, fathers can easily get lost in all the hustle and bustle. Mothers usually take a bigger role in the planning or at least the involvement in the wedding and fathers get a seat in the back. While this could be viewed as a sad thing, it’s not typically a big deal to the fathers. They know it’s not their day and they have no problem chilling in the background and doing what they are told. However, I think it’s nice when you can include your father in your wedding and your wedding planning.
Now, I’m not saying you should force him to come and pick out your flowers with you (unless you and he really want to), but I think you should include him in the areas that he cares about. For most men, that’s food. So, bring him to the tasting. He’ll enjoy that and get to be a part of planning your wedding.
Or if he’s into wine or is a cigar guy, ask his opinion on the wine you choose or the cigars you buy. If he has a thing for photography, ask him what he thinks about the photographers you are considering. If he knows a ton about jazz music and you’re trying to put together a playlist for the cocktail hour, get him involved. If he’s a globetrotter, ask him about hotels and fun things to do in the area of your destination wedding.
When asked an opinion on something he cares about I’m sure your father (or the father of the bride or the father of the groom) would love to share what he thinks. Don’t forget to tap into that knowledge or expertise that he possesses and bring him into the wedding. It’s an easy way to involve him while not stressing him out or making him more involved then he wants to be.
It’s Father’s Day this coming Sunday and in honor of all the fathers, don’t forget to include your father(s) in your wedding. You’ll be happy you did and he will be too.
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