It’s somehow June already, can you believe it? Time sure flies! But that also means it’s time for our June Wedding Planning Challenge! Are you excited? I sure hope so.
If you’re new to our blog and to our wedding planning challenges, welcome! Before you dive into this month’s wedding planning challenge, you can also check out our past wedding planning challenges on how to combat overwhelm, how to stay organized, how to choose your wedding colors, how to make the right decisions for you, and how to work with your family and friends. Now let’s dive into our June wedding planning challenge.
June Wedding Planning Challenge
Do buffets excite you?
Buffets can be so much fun. There are so many options to choose from and you can try them all. There’s no limit, so you can go back for seconds and stuff your face as much as you like.
But, what happens is that you can never eat it all, you end up wasting food and most of the time, a lot of what you ate isn’t great. You only really end up liking maybe 2-5 things, but because you spent your stomach space on all this other stuff that your eyes got excited about, you don’t get much of what you really wanted.
I like buffets in theory, but if I’m being honest, you never end up with the best experience or the happiest tummy.
It’s the very much the same with wedding inspiration. There is a huge buffet of images and inspiration on Pinterest and all of the wedding blogs, but with so much to choose from it can be both overwhelming and also not right for you. Like with a buffet, there are so many options and your eyes get all excited by all the beauty, and you save it all to your wedding board. But, when you really start to look, while it may be lovely, most of it (or all of it) isn’t actually that great or necessarily what you want.
The reality is that there is such a thing as too many options and inspiration overload. Couples can get easily caught up in the whirlwind of Pinterest or wedding images. And the result? Perhaps a beautiful wedding, but not one you actually wanted.
The wedding media talks a lot about wedding themes or styles. You’ll meet with a florist or a photographer and they’ll ask you what your wedding style is and they expect some generic term like “rustic” or “modern” or “whimsical”. Pinterest and wedding blogs will do the same and lump weddings into categories. Granted, they are trying to make it easier for you, but really, it just makes it harder.
Here’s the key, don’t try to figure out your wedding style, figure out your style first. Because your wedding is about you, so getting in tune with what you two like is what you need to do. And that’s what our June wedding planning challenge is all about. We’re going to help you figure out your style so that when you take a look at your Pinterest board, it will be filled with all things you, not just all things pretty. Here are the steps you need to take to get the wedding you actually want.
The first thing you need to do is give yourself an inspiration detox. Step away from Pinterest and from wedding blogs and magazines for a month. Yup, you heard me, give yourself a month. Or if you just can’t stay away, give yourself at least a week off. You want to stop and go cold turkey. You need to stop seeing a bombardment of images before you can really hone in on your style.
Start looking at your surroundings and what you own and really pay attention. Look at your home, your clothes, your books, your car. Take a look at the items you surround yourself with and just take note of what is around you. Then look at the things you love most. Maybe it’s your bed or your favorite piece of jewelry or your favorite shoes. Take a look at them and ask yourself why you love them. Is it the color? Is it the style? Is it because it reminds you of something?
You should start to begin to create a catalog of what you like. But, don’t limit yourself here. It’s a brainstorm that is all encompassing. Make sure you are both involved in this exercise so that your wedding style is a combination of the both of you. You’ll also want to download your free cheat sheet to get some additional ideas that will help.
Take yourself out of your surroundings and go look at other things you like. Look at the stores you like, the museums you like, the TV characters, the magazines (non-wedding). Take it all in and make a note of what you like and why you like it. What speaks to you? And why? Don’t limit yourself on this step either, write it all down. And don’t forget to download your free cheat sheet to give you, even more ideas of where to look.
Now you want to take all of that good reflection you did and put it all together. What are the overarching feelings or colors or details that keep coming up? What are the standouts? What are the important things? Start circling the items that are meaningful, the ones that speak to who you are together and individually, the ones that speak to your story. This is your style.
As an example, it could look something like this: We like things that are comfortable but have some interesting details. We like brighter colors and textures but mixed in with classic black and white. We like funny references, places that have character and anything having to do with travel to Asia.
In the last step, you’re going to take your style and combine that with your wedding to create your wedding style. Take what is important to you about the wedding, about the day, and about the experience and insert your style into it. If you haven’t yet thought about what is important to you, download our free wedding planning guide, The First Step, which will walk you through some questions you need to ask yourself.
You want to make sure your style supports the wedding experience you want to have and vice versa. The two should work together because they both reflect you and what is important to you. They shouldn’t compete or be vastly different. But, if they do, that is a sign that one or the other isn’t actually reflective of who you are and you’ll want to take another look at it.
Your wedding style should feel harmonious, meaningful and personal. Once you have your wedding style, all you need to do is pay attention to the inspiration that fits with your unique wedding style. Ignore all the rest and just be laser focused on what fits you and you’ll end up creating a wedding you truly love.
Now it’s your turn!
Aren’t you excited to get started and figure out exactly what your style is and how to get the wedding you want? I know you’re nodding your head. So, now it’s time for you to take action!
Download your free cheat sheet with ideas on where to look to understand your style and then go through each step listed above. If you work through it, it will start to click once you put it all together. Be honest and true to yourself and you’ll find that you’ll be able to nail your style and turn that exciting, but overwhelming wedding inspiration buffet into a much more curated and satisfying selection.
Once you’ve worked through it, we’d love to hear what your style is. Share 5 words that describe your style in a comment below or on social media with #WeddingPlanningChallenge. We’ll be cheering you on and can’t wait to hear all about your successes. And don’t forget, we’re always here for you so if you have any questions, please let us know in a comment below. Happy Designing!