It’s almost turkey day and while we will be taking tomorrow off to celebrate with our loved ones, we couldn’t leave you without your wedding planning fix. So, today’s wedding planning question is about non-gift ideas.
Q: My partner and I are getting married next year and we’ve decided that we don’t want our guests to get us gifts. We don’t need anything and we don’t want them spending more money than what they are already spending to come to our destination wedding. But, we know people are going to ask us, so we want to come up with an alternative if they feel the need to give a gift. Besides donations to charity, what other non-gift options are there?
I love this question especially now that it’s holiday season. I think it’s both considerate and nice of you not to ask for gifts because it will make the financial side of your destination wedding easier for your guests. But, you are right, there will be people who will want to do something for you and if you don’t want gifts, then you need to direct them elsewhere. Asking your guests to donate to a charity is the more traditional route to go, but there are many other options you can consider that are just as meaningful (if not more so).
Start by thinking about what matters to you. What do you care about? What are you passionate about? What concerns you? How do you want to make the world a better place? And then use those passions to come up with a non-gift. So, for example if you are very eco-conscious, you could ask your guests to plant a tree or start carpooling once a week. Or if you are a diehard vegetarian, you could ask your guests to try eating as a vegetarian for a day or a week. If you are a firm believer in human interaction, you could ask your guests to go phone free (or completely unplugged) for the entire week of your destination wedding. Or you can do what I talked about in my previous post (you can read about it here) and you can ask your guests to perform a random act of kindness.
There are so many ways you can take this and what I love about it is that whatever non-gift you settle on, it will be meaningful to you. And what is meaningful to you will be meaningful to your guests as well. This is their gift to you and if it’s something you care about, they will care too. More importantly, it may even get them to see their world or the world in a different way. So, your gift could not only help someone else but your guests as well. That is a win all around in my book. So, think about what matters to you and what your guests can realistically give and I’m sure you’ll come up with a meaningful non-gift that you’ll be happy about and thankful for.
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Have a wonderful Thanksgiving! Gobble Gobble!