8 Ways to Include the Mother of the Groom In Your Wedding

It’s Mother’s day this coming Sunday!  So, we want to honor mothers this week (because they should really get more than a day).

When it comes to weddings, it’s easy to think about your mom.  But, it can be easy to forget about your mother in law, especially when the mother in law is the mother of the groom.

So, today we’re sharing 8 ways you can honor the mother of the groom in your wedding.  And make sure she feels special too!

8 Ways To Include the Mother of the Groom In Your Wedding

1. Include her in the wedding planning and give her a special job

Mother of the groom helping the bride get dressed in traditional Korean wedding attire for a multicultural wedding in Hawaii by destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: What a Day! Photography)

Most moms no matter which side they are on, love helping with weddings.  Moms want to help and are really happy when they are involved.

So, involve your mother of the groom in the planning where you can.  And if you can have her help out in an area that she’s interested in, that will mean even more to her.

So, if she loves shopping, she’d be honored if you invited her along when you picked out your dress.  Or you can have her help you find your veil.   Or if she’s really organized, then put her in charge of gathering the RSVPs or coordinating the family.

2. Ask her opinion

Bride and groom taking wedding photos at their Big Island destination wedding in Hawaii by destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Emily Piraino Photography)

One of the simplest ways to include the mother of the groom is simply by asking her opinion.  It doesn’t have to be on a huge important item (or it can be).  But, if you’re debating something, ask her what she thinks.

You don’t have to follow her opinion if you don’t want to, but the mere asking means you care what she thinks.  And that will make her feel included and a part of the wedding.

3. Display photos of her and her family

Welcome gift table with photos at a Half Moon Bay wedding by Destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Strotz Photography)

If you’re putting together a photo collage, slideshow or displaying photos at the wedding, ask her to help you with your fiancé’s side.  She’ll love finding old photos and sharing stories with you.

And I always think it’s sweet when you display her wedding photo at the wedding along with your parent’s wedding photo.  It will not only make her happy, but be a reminder of her special day too.

4. Invite her to get her hair and makeup done

Bride and mother of the bride getting ready on the wedding day at a San Francisco wedding by destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Jerry Yoon Photographers)

All women want to look good and even more so on a special day like your wedding day.  While hair and makeup is usually just for the bride, bridal party and mother of the bride, invite her along!  See if she’d like to get herself made up too.

Even if she says no, asking includes her.  It will make her feel like a part of the girls.  And she’ll not only look great, but feel great too.

5. Tell her she looks great

Mother of the bride and mother of the groom having a ball during the Hora dance at a Hawaii destination wedding on the Big Island by destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Emily Piraino Photography)

Most brides will be thinking about themselves on their wedding day, but take a moment to tell the mother of the groom that she looks beautiful.  Because I’m sure she will be looking beautiful.

Telling her shows that you’re thinking of her.  And that compliment will make her feel awesome.

6. Give her flowers

Succulent boutonnieres and corsages for the wedding party and family at a Sonoma destination wedding by destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Arrowood Photography)

Women always appreciate flowers, so make sure you get a special something for her.  It could be a corsage, boutonniere or small bouquet.

It signifies that she’s special (because she is) to everyone else and will also make her feel special.  HINT: Make sure what you choose doesn’t clash with what she’s wearing.

7. Have the mother-son dance

Mother of the groom and the groom dance the mother- son dance at destination wedding in Sonoma by Jamie Chang destination wedding planner of Mango Muse Events.

(Photo credit: Chrisman Studios)

The mother son dance is her chance to have a special moment with her child, so let her have it.  And pick a song that speaks to who she is and the love they have.

8. Thank her for her son

Bride and groom thank you toast at their Bently Reserve destination wedding in San Francisco by destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Sabine Scherer Photography)

You’ll most likely be giving a speech with your new husband at the reception and thanking your guests for coming. Take this opportunity and thank his parents and his mother for him.  For helping him to be the man he is and for trusting you to take care of him.

Or if this is too public for your style, thank her alone on the side.  Either way, it will mean a lot to her.

Need some help planning your wedding and making sure you’re thinking about everything and everyone?  Contact us today!

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