It’s my husband’s birthday today (Happy Birthday C!) and since we’re celebrating his special day, in today’s Wedding Wednesday Q&A we’re talking about special days: My fiancé and I just finalized our wedding date. We’re thrilled because we got the last available date for the venue we really wanted. But, now that we’ve started planning and telling people the wedding date, we’ve come to realize that it’s also one of our good friend’s birthdays and my Aunt and Uncle’s anniversary. We can’t change the date because it’s too late and we’d lose the venue, but we feel bad that they won’t be able to celebrate their special days. While we want to keep our wedding about the wedding, we would like to honor them somehow because they are really special to us. Do you have some suggestions on ways we can do this?
Oh, I love this! I think it’s so wonderful that you’re thinking about them. It’s true that they won’t get to celebrate their special days, but they also love you and want to celebrate your wedding, so don’t be too put out by it. But, I do think it’s a great idea to honor them and they’ll be totally surprised and will appreciate that you cared enough to remember. So, there are a number of ways you can do this and you should definitely tailor it to your wedding and to these people and what they’d like, but here are some ideas to help celebrate their special days:
1. After you cut the cake, have another small cake brought out for your friend and another for your Aunt and Uncle. You can bring them up to and lead the guests in singing happy birthday/anniversary.
2. When you do your thank yous, mention them and do an actual shout out. Wish them a happy birthday/anniversary and mention how lucky you are to share this special date with these special people.
3. If your Aunt/Uncle are big dancers (and not shy), you can invite them up for a special dance sometime during the reception, so they can relive their first dance. Bonus points if you can find out what their first dance song was and play that.
4. If you’d rather keep the shout out on the down low (either because you aren’t into big displays or your friend isn’t), you can always grab your friend on the side during the reception and present him/her with a little cupcake and candle and wish him/her a happy birthday. This also works for your Aunt and Uncle as well.
5. If you are planning on doing a kissing game where another couple has to kiss before you do, definitely choose your Aunt/Uncle to be called and have your emcee mention that it’s their anniversary as well.
6. Have a special song play for your friend during the reception (maybe something that reminds you of them or something you know they love) and grab them to dance. You can even have the DJ do a shout out when the song comes on (go shorty, it’s your birthday…).
7. Write a little note on their seating card or place card mentioning the special significance (e.g. Birthday girl! or Happy # Anniversary! We hope to be as happy and lucky as you are).
8. Give them some flowers, like a boutonniere or small bouquet as a little gift to make them feel special.
As I mentioned before, these are just some ideas and there are much more, but hopefully this will get you thinking so you can find that perfect little gift that you think they’d really enjoy and you would too.
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