Wedding Wednesdays Q&A: Seating Chart

Wedding Wednesdays Q&A by Jamie Chang Destination Wedding Planner of Mango Muse Events

We’ve got a busy week this week, so without any diddle daddle let’s dive right in!  This week we’re discussing the seating chart:  Our RSVPs are coming in and so we’re starting to think about our seating chart and the floorplan.  We’re putting people on tables and we’re having trouble figuring out where we should sit.  Our wedding party is quite large (10 on each side) so we can’t sit with all of them.  Sitting with just some of them seems weird, so we were leaning towards sitting alone on a sweetheart table.  But, that seems kind of lonely.  What do you think we should do?  Are there any other options we’re forgetting?

When the numbers don’t quite work out, it can be hard to figure out what the best seating option is.  I understand your struggle, but you do have a few options.  The first option is the sweetheart table, which is what you were considering.  While it can seem lonely, it is also a great opportunity for the two of you to have some time together which you actually don’t get much of on your wedding day.  It also gives you a chance to eat in a bit of peace which once again is hard to come by on the wedding day.  The flip side of that, of course, is that you aren’t with your guests as much and are more segregated.

Option two is for you to sit with your family instead.  I don’t know how large your families are, but if they aren’t large you could potentially sit with both your parents (this is key so you aren’t favoring one over the other) and siblings.  This usually works best for couples that are really close to their families.  The potential downside of this is that your parents are also hosts (whether they are contributing monetarily or not) and so they won’t be able to sit with their guests.

Option three is for you to sit with your full wedding party.  I know you said that you have a large wedding party, but there still might be a way.  If you think beyond round tables and do queens or kings tables (for those who don’t know what those are, they are larger rectangular tables), you should be able to fit everyone.  You’ll just need to have multiple tables placed end to end to fit everyone.  Since I don’t know what your wedding reception space looks like, I can’t say for sure if it will work, but you could certainly consider it.  There may be an additional charge for a queen or king table, but it might be worth it to get to sit with your entire wedding party.

And the last option is for you to sit with just part of your wedding party with the rest sitting on another table.  I know you didn’t like this option, but it is ok to just sit with some of your wedding party.  Your wedding party shouldn’t mind and if the other options don’t suit you, this option certainly can work.

Now with all the options laid out for you for your seating chart, I have hopefully made it easier for you.  However, if you are still conflicted, think about who you’d like to ideally sit with and try to make that work.  It is your wedding day and you want to enjoy it.  So, you should sit with who will make you happy whether that is your new husband/wife, your family or your friends.

Seating chart for a San Francisco wedding by Destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Jerry Yoon Photographers)

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