Happy Wednesday and welcome to your favorite wedding planning resource! As always we’re here to answer all of your questions and get you to wedding planning bliss. This week we’re talking about a pregnant bridesmaid: My maid of honor just told me that she’s pregnant and while I’m thrilled for her (I really am), I’m worried about my wedding. We’re having a destination wedding and she’s due about a week after our wedding. She promises me that she’ll be there, but what do I do if she can’t make it? Do you think I should consider changing the date?
Ah, pregnancy. While such a happy occurrence, it really can throw a wrench into any wedding plan. I’ve had couples in the past who’ve changed their dates or picked their dates to accommodate a pregnant bridesmaid or sibling or friend. While it is something you can consider if your schedule will allow it and you have enough time (and money if you need to pay for change or cancellation fees), I usually don’t recommend the change unless it’s something you can easily do. If you haven’t booked too many vendors yet or perhaps only have the wedding venue, then making the change shouldn’t be too hard. So it just depends on where you are in your wedding planning and whether it makes sense for your situation. One thing I want to mention is that if your save the dates are already out, your guests may have already purchased tickets and you can’t change the date on them.
My recommendation is to move forward assuming she’ll be able to make it. You can easily adjust the dress (if needed) and just have a back up plan in place if at the last minute she can’t be there. Know in advance who you would want to act as your maid of honor on the wedding day and do things like give a toast. That way if the situation does arise, you’ll be ready. After that, there isn’t much you can do but hope she’ll be able to make it and if she can’t, you’ll be happy for her new addition.
(Photo credit: McAllister Photography)
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