Happy Wednesday and welcome to a new Wedding Wednesdays Q&A! For those uninitiated into the family, this is where we answer all your wedding planning questions so that you can be stress-free and happy. Today we’re discussing wedding stationery: I’m the mother of the bride and I’m trying to help my daughter with the wedding planning as much as I can, but things are so different now (then when I got married) and I’m confused! I have been reading about save the dates and invitations and the save the date is a totally new thing for me. Is it important to do both? If you send a save the date, do you have to send out invitations? Can you just send invitations? Help!
No problem, I’m happy to explain! So the role of the save the dates are to give your guests the very basic information about the wedding – the who (the happy couple!), the when (the date) and the where (city and state). It’s so people can literally save the date in their calendars ahead of time so that they don’t book other appointments or trips, especially if it’s a busy time of year like summer or near a holiday. Save the dates are particularly important if you are having a destination wedding or a wedding that many of your guests will be traveling to so that they can plan for the travel and the time off of work.
Unfortunately, you can’t just send save the dates since they aren’t an invitation to the event (although you shouldn’t send a save the date to someone you aren’t planning on inviting to the wedding) nor do they have the important information like the ceremony time and location. But, you can just send invitations. Not everyone needs a save the date, but many people do it now just to, once again give their guests a heads up. If you do decide to send both, then you’ll just want to make sure you give yourself enough time in-between the two, otherwise, the usefulness of the save the date is moot (and a waste of money). You don’t want to send the save the date and then send the invites a month later. If you have a year to plan the wedding, usually around the 9-month mark is a good time to send the save the dates. If you don’t have that much time left, I’d say you’d want to send them out at least 3 months before you plan on sending the invites (about 6 months out).
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