Wedding Wednesdays Q&A: Are Wedding Surprises A Good Idea?

Wedding Wednesdays Q&A by Jamie Chang Destination Wedding Planner of Mango Muse Events

It’s Wednesday and what does that mean?  Yup, it’s time for a new Wedding Wednesday Q&A!  Our topic today is something I’ve been getting quite a few questions on which is about wedding surprises:  I’m not a bride, but I’m a maid of honor and also the sister of the bride.  I was thinking that it would be fun to surprise my sister and her fiance at their wedding with a special song.  I think it would be both fun and funny and I think they’d like it, but do you think this is a good idea?

So wedding surprises, in theory, are wonderful because it’s just that, a surprise which is exciting.  But, I’ve found with weddings the success of it really depends on the couple.  The one thing to remember about surprises is that some people really don’t like them.  If they like control, then surprises can actually be an upsetting thing, especially at a wedding.

Imagine you planned this wedding for months, even years and then something happens that you didn’t really want.  It can make for an unhappy couple.  Now other couples would love a surprise and appreciate having something they didn’t plan happen and totally dig it.  So what you need to do is think about your sister and her fiancé specifically, in order to make the call.

You want their wedding day to be awesome, so if there is any doubt that the surprise could be a bad thing, I’d suggest you don’t do it.  You can also ask your parents or family or their friends as well and see what they think.  This might help you to see if it’s a good idea or not.  Now, if you are pretty sure, but just aren’t totally sure then what you could do instead is surprise them at the rehearsal dinner or at another event.  That way if it isn’t quite as well received as you’d hoped, you didn’t affect the wedding itself.

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