Are you ready? It’s your favorite time of the week, Wedding Wednesdays! This is where we answer your most pressing wedding planning questions and today we’re talking about the wedding reception program: My DJ requires me to fill out this online planning form that asks about all these different things in the reception like who is doing the welcome toast, when we are having the first dance and the bouquet toss. The form has so many items and I’m feeling overwhelmed. Do we need to be doing all these things? What’s normal?
Back in the day, there really was such a thing as “normal” and every wedding reception program was pretty much the same. But, nowadays you can do whatever you want! Your DJ’s form has all the possibilities so that they can prepare best for the wedding day, but just because it’s on a list doesn’t mean you have to do it. The wedding reception program like everything else should be about you two and what is meaningful to you. If you want to do a welcome toast, go for it. If you don’t want a bouquet toss, don’t do it. You can do as much or as little as you want.
I’ve had couples who had quite a large wedding reception program from toasts to dances to tosses and a slideshow. I’ve also had couples who had just 1 toast and the cake cutting. You can even do something completely different too, but whatever you include should be things that you care about. The one thing to just keep in mind is that guests have short attention spans, so the longer reception programs are less enjoyable for your guests. While your guests love you and want to celebrate these moments with you, if you have an hour’s worth of stuff, it’s just not that fun for them to sit through. And honestly, it won’t be that fun for you either. Include the items that are important to you, but try to keep the length in mind so that you and your guests can enjoy time with each other too.
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