It’s your favorite time of the week! Yup, it’s Wedding Wednesdays Q&A where we help you over your wedding planning hurdles. This week we’re talking about the broke bridesmaid: I was asked to be a bridesmaid for a college friend of mine and I was super excited. Not only because she’s a great friend, but because I’ve never been a bridesmaid. As the planning started though I realized that being a bridesmaid is going to be really expensive and I really don’t know if I can swing it. I don’t want to ruin my friend’s plans, but how do I not go broke? Help!
Those of us in the industry (and those who have been bridesmaids before) know that being a part of a wedding party can definitely get pricey. With the bridesmaid dress, the shower, bachelorette party and gifts, the total can accumulate to several hundreds or even several thousands of dollars. Since this is your first time as a bridesmaid I’m sure it came as a bit of a shock. But, reaching out for help is good and we won’t lead you astray.
The first thing you should do is be honest with yourself and think about a budget. How much can you realistically spend on the wedding and its related activities? I know you want to be involved and make all the events, but you also want to be able to buy groceries and toilet paper.
After you sit down and look at your budget, talk to your friend (the bride) about your concerns. Let her know that while you are super excited for her and want to do everything, you are nervous you won’t be able to. She’s your friend so she’ll understand and either be ok with you not pitching in for every event or maybe she’ll change her plans so that it’s easier on all your pocketbooks. Either way, having the conversation will set her expectations so that she’s not disappointed and will allow you to still be a part of the wedding while not going broke.
(Photo credit: Milou and Olin Photography)