Hello hello! Welcome to our Wedding Wednesdays Q&A! The place to be for all your wedding planning needs. Today we’re talking about planning a bridal shower.
Q: I’m the maid of honor for a friend of mine and I was wondering, am I supposed to plan her bridal shower? And if I am, should I be paying for it?
Yes, traditionally the maid of honor plans the bridal shower for the bride and yes, traditionally as the host, you’d pay for it. But, nowadays it’s a bit more flexible. Some brides will have just one shower and invite everyone from all areas of their life and other times brides will have multiple showers (i.e. one thrown by coworkers, one with family, one with friends, etc). So what I would suggest is talking to your friend and seeing what she’d like. Maybe she’s the kind of girl who doesn’t want a bridal shower at all or maybe she’d like you to plan one but just for certain people. Go off of her wants and if any other showers pop up outside of the one you are doing, you shouldn’t have to worry about those.
In terms of footing the bill, if you have the means and want to, it’s certainly a nice treat both for the bride, but also for all the guests. However, if that isn’t possible (which is very common), what you can do is take care of the place (if there is a fee) and things like the favors and decor. Then have the guests each pay for their own meal (you’ll want to put together the menu at a reasonable price for them), while you take care of the bride’s meal. Another way to do it is to bring in all the bridesmaids as co-hosts and you can cover the costs together. In both cases, you are still the host and still putting together the shower, but just not having to shoulder the entire financial cost.
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