Wedding Wednesdays Q&A: Wedding Etiquette

Wedding Wednesdays Q&A by Jamie Chang Destination Wedding Planner of Mango Muse Events

There are so many exciting things happening over here at Mango Muse Events that we don’t have enough time in the day to share it all!   We have a big reveal happening at the end of the week, so stay tuned!  But, despite all the hubbub going on, we can’t forget our Wedding Wednesdays, now can we?  This week’s question is about wedding etiquette.

Q: We’re finalizing our invitation wording and were wondering, is it ok to say that we want monetary gifts?

You’d be surprised, but I get this question from almost every couple I work with.  Nowadays since most couples live together before getting married, they don’t need (or want) to register and want cash instead to put towards some bigger investment.  I totally get this and there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting monetary gifts.  However, you cannot put that in your invitation!

Now you know me, I’m not one to stick to the rules, in fact, I throw them out the window quite a bit.  But, when it comes to this particular point, I have to pull out the wedding etiquette card.  It’s simply rude to ask your guests for monetary gifts.  Gifts are exactly that, a gift, which is something that comes from the heart.  So, you can’t dictate to them what they should give you.  It’s just not right.

What you can do is subtly spread the word through your immediate family and best friends.  When asked they’ll let people know that you aren’t registered because you have the household things you need, but are really saving up for a house, car, honeymoon, baby, etc…  Then it’s up to the guest to take the hint or ignore it, but this way the word can spread without you demanding it.  Be nice and considerate of your guests, because they are your guests and you should take care of them not the other way around.

Do you have a wedding planning itch that you just can’t scratch?  Let us know about it and we’ll make you feel so much better.

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