Wedding Wednesdays Q&A: Wedding Party

Wedding Wednesdays Q&A by Jamie Chang Destination Wedding Planner of Mango Muse Events

Q: Does my wedding party need to match?

You could interpret this question 2 different ways, but the answer to both ways is no.

If we’re talking about keeping the number of bridesmaids and groomsmen the same, you definitely don’t have to.  It is easy to figure out ways to walk down the aisle that will work with whatever size wedding party you have.  It’s more important to choose people that matter to you and are people you want standing by your side.  I never suggest that my clients ask someone to be in their wedding party just to even up the numbers.  It’s just not as meaningful or real for them or for you.

In that same vein, don’t worry about gender either.  You can have a man of honor or a groomsmaid.  Don’t be afraid to choose the people you actually want just because of tradition.  And lastly, you don’t even have to have a wedding party if you don’t want to.  Keeping it just the two of you and the officiate is a wonderful way to go as well.

Now if we are talking about fashion and matching what your wedding party wears, the answer is also no.  I think it’s great to have an overarching plan, but they don’t need to all look the same.  Can they wear different colors?  Sure.  Can they wear different styles?  Sure.  Just keep in mind that you want them to all work together somehow.  They don’t have to match, but you do want them to be harmonious.

One last tip is to just be careful that you don’t go crazy with what your wedding party wears.  I’m all for non-traditional, but you just don’t want what they are wearing to distract people from the reason you are all there, to celebrate your love and the joining of your lives.

Mixed gender wedding party for a Hawaii destination wedding by Destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Rachel Robertson Photography)

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