If you are just about to start planning your wedding, one of the first questions people have, is what do I do first?
Before you figure out when or where you are going to get married, you’ll have to think about the who, the guest list. Sit down with your fiance and start putting together a list of people that are important to you, the people you know you want at your wedding. This could be a list of just two (yourselves) and an elopement is what makes the most sense. Or it’s a list of 10 or 50 or 100 or 500. The size of your list will influence both the timeframe and the location and many other wedding planning decisions.
Once you have an initial guest list, look it over in detail. Is each person on this list someone you are close to? Do these people know who you are and do you envision them being a part of your lives down the road? If you had your wedding and this person wasn’t there, would you be sad?
With guest lists, many times we tend to invite people because we are supposed to, but this is an opportunity to really think about the people that matter to you. You have to construct a guest list that makes sense for the two of you. If having a big wedding is your thing and you want to invite everyone because everyone matters to you, then you should do that. If you want to only have the people who are your closest friends and family at your wedding, then that is what you should do. It’s a very personal decision, so take the time to think about it seriously because it will affect every other decision in the wedding planning process.