I recently contributed to an article about wedding toasts and since we are wedding toast aficionados here at Mango Muse Events, this week’s Wedding Wednesday Q&A is also about toasts.
Q: How many wedding toasts should I have at my reception? How do I prevent people I don’t want to speak from speaking?
I usually recommend to my couples that you shouldn’t have more than 4 toasts and each wedding toast shouldn’t be longer than 5 minutes max. If you have more than 4, people will lose focus. It’s unfortunate, but true. Guests just don’t have long attention spans, so doing too many will just make them bored. And while the wedding is about you, you want your guests to have a good time as well. In this instance, less is more. If you absolutely must have more than 4 toasts, consider having some of those people speak at the rehearsal dinner instead. It’s a more intimate gathering anyway and that crowd will be more receptive.
If someone is pushing to do a wedding toast and you don’t want them speaking for one reason or another, just politely tell them that you appreciate the gesture, but that you have a program worked out already. Or once again, you can give them permission to speak at the rehearsal dinner instead. Last but not least, let your emcee know that you don’t want random unscheduled toasts at your wedding. This will prevent the microphone from getting passed around and unexpected speeches being made.
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