Q: Do I have to give my single friends a plus one?
For some people, figuring out the guest list can be the most difficult part of the whole wedding planning process. You have to think about who to invite, who not to invite, whether to invite kids, etc. One of those tricky areas are your single friends.
What I tell my couples is that if they have the capacity and budget to give their single friends a plus one, it’s a really nice thing to do. Whether your friends have a significant other or not, it’s nice to have the option to bring someone especially if they won’t really know anyone else at the wedding. It makes them more comfortable and they will always end up having a better time. However, for those who need to cut down their guest list, getting rid of the plus ones is an area that can help with that.
There are a couple of things to keep in mind. First off, if your friends are engaged or dating someone that is very serious, I recommend that you invite that person. If they are single and not with someone, then you can not give them a plus one. However, you have to make it a rule which means that everyone that falls into that category gets the same treatment. For example, some of my couples in the past have invited only the significant others that they have personally met. They wanted to have people at their wedding that they knew, so that was their differentiation. As long as you can draw a clear line then you should be okay, because what you don’t want to do is to give a plus one to some people and not others for no real reason (this recommendation also applies to kids). In the end though, you want to think about your guests. You want them to have a good time and sometimes that requires a plus one.
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