Have you been binge watching the Olympics like how I have? The athleticism and grace are just so amazing to see.
Besides the actual competitions, one thing I love to watch are the individual rituals. I like seeing what the prep looks like. Maybe it’s the event planner in me, but it’s interesting to see how different people get ready for this big moment. Everyone works differently and what works for Michael Phelps may not work Simone Biles or Kerry Walsh Jennings.
In the first swimming relay, I noticed that Michael Phelps was standing there with his headphones still on while the rest of the team was stretching and putting goggles on. I was getting nervous and thinking to myself, “Doesn’t he need to get ready?! Hello, the race is about to start!”. And then I noticed him doing it again in the last relay.
Here’s the thing, what works for one person doesn’t work for another. And him standing there with his headphones on was him getting ready. And hey to each his own! The guy is obviously doing something right.
This is very similar to working with your wedding vendors for your destination wedding. Every destination location has its own culture and pace. What works in one area does not in another. And many of the most popular destination wedding locations tend to move slower. They are on what I like to call, “island time”. Communication is slower, responses are slower and they just aren’t as tech savvy.
Destination Wedding Planning Tip
Remember, not everyone works at the same pace you do. You won’t get them to change no matter how many emails you send. Accept and respect how they work and then adjust how you work so that you won’t go crazy.
Now, we may not all be New Yorkers, but most of us expect a pretty fast turnaround from anyone we work with. That could be a dentist or a plumber or a wedding photographer. It doesn’t matter. We send an email or make a call and we expect a 24-hour turnaround. But, here’s the thing – it doesn’t work that way in other countries or even other areas of the US. Things move slower in Hawaii, the Caribbean, Mexico, Bali and Europe even.
One of the things I’ve learned over my many years of planning destination weddings is that this is just the way it is. You can’t get them to change and there’s no point trying. So, what do you do?
For today’s destination wedding planning tip, instead of trying to change them, change the way you work instead. Expect it to be slow and work ahead so that you don’t get frustrated. Inquire for things early or send things across early so that you have time to hear back. And be as complete and thorough as possible. You don’t want to send piecemeal emails. It will just make it harder on you and them. And it can potentially cause some miscommunication which you absolutely don’t want.
Trust that it will work out because it will. They will get you to the finish line, it just might not be in the way you would do it or as fast as you would like. But, you’ll get there. And if you change how you work, you’ll save yourself some trouble and headaches.
(Photo credit: McAllister Photography)
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