Wedding Wednesdays Q&A: Wedding Party Roles

Wedding Wednesdays Q&A by Jamie Chang Destination Wedding Planner of Mango Muse Events

Q: I’m a total newbie when it comes to weddings.  I don’t have siblings or cousins who have gotten married.  And I’m the first of my friends to get married.  So, I’m a little lost to say the least.  I know who I want to be in my wedding party, but I don’t really know what they should be doing.  What are the wedding party roles?  What should I tell them they need to do?

This is a great question!  And to be honest, not many people actually know the answer to this question.  There are some assumptions for sure, but there are definitely some things you wouldn’t think to know.  So, I think it’s great that you’re asking because it will not only help you, but your wedding party too.

So, here are the wedding party roles and responsibilities that they’ll be taking care of for you.  Now one thing to keep in mind is that you may need to add or delete from this list depending on your situation and wedding.  But, this is a good list to use as a guide.

Maid of Honor/Best Man Role

For your maid of honor or best man, their main purpose is to be your best person, your wing man, your helper.  They are there to support you, help you plan and look for things and keep your wedding party organized.

Before the wedding

  • Helping pick out the wedding party attire
  • Organizing the group and being the point of contact
  • Organizing the bachelorette/bachelor party
  • Organizing a wedding shower (for the bride or couple)
  • Helping the couple with any other wedding planning items
  • Picking up and returning rental tuxes/suits (best man)

Wedding day

  • By the bride/groom’s side all day making sure they are taken care of and happy
  • Making sure the bride/groom drinks water and eats something
  • Not letting the girls/guys get drunk
  • Having snacks around
  • Helping the bride/groom get dressed
  • Helping the bride with her dress – holding it up to walk or pee (maid of honor)
  • Fixing the bride’s dress/train (maid of honor)
  • Holding the bride’s bouquet (maid of honor)
  • In charge of holding the rings (best man)
  • Signing the marriage license as a witness
  • Managing the bride’s personal items like her phone, lipstick, bag (maid of honor)
  • Holding any personal items for the groom during the ceremony (best man)
  • Keeping the wedding party on time via the schedule
  • The MOH or BM toast
  • Making sure the getting ready room is cleaned up
  • Decorating the getaway car (best man)
  • Any other specific tasks

Bridesmaids/Groomsmen Role

Now your bridesmaids and groomsmen and other wedding party peeps are also there to support you.  They do this by being there for you and supporting your best person by sharing the load.

Before the wedding

  • Helping with the wedding party attire
  • Helping the MOH/BM with any parties
  • Helping the couple with any other wedding planning items

Wedding day

  • By the bride/groom’s side all day making sure they are taken care of and happy
  • Helping the bride get dressed and manage items and cleaning the getting ready room (bridesmaids)
  • Helping the groom with any items, cleaning the getting ready room and decorating the car (groomsmen)
  • In charge of getting lunch for everyone (groomsmen)
  • Ushers at the ceremony and passing out programs (groomsmen)
  • Any other specific tasks

Now that you know what your wedding party roles are, you can share this with your wedding party.  Talk to them about what you need help with and what you’d like them to do.  Let them be the support for you that they should be.  Don’t be afraid to lean on them when you need help.  Don’t abuse them either, but remember, you don’t need to do everything alone.

Mixed gender wedding party for a Hawaii destination wedding by Destination wedding planner Mango Muse Events

(Photo credit: Rachel Robertson Photography)

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