It’s a new year, which means a fresh start to your wedding planning and in that same vein, we’ve got something new to share, the Wedding Planning Challenge. Intrigued? You should be. This is a time of change, of improvement and of trying new things. Our goal is always to inspire you and make your wedding planning easier, more fun and of course, joyful. While there are so many tips, ideas and information we can share with you on how to plan your wedding joyfully, we want you to take action and to see results in your wedding planning and in your life. When wedding planning is happy, your life will be too. And who doesn’t want a happy life?
So, without further ado, I’d like to introduce you to the Wedding Planning Challenge! We understand the many issues you struggle with when it comes to wedding planning and the range of emotions you feel because of it. We want you to be happy planning your wedding at every step of the way and this wedding planning challenge is a chance for us to focus on one of those issues every month and solve it. We’ll discuss the problem you are facing and the steps to find your way out of it. Then we’ll pass the challenge on to you to work on and put your solution into action. While the challenge is only for the month, the solution you learn will help you as you continue to plan your wedding. Every time you find yourself in a similar situation, you’ll know how to get out of it and how to potentially even prevent it in the future which will not only make wedding planning happier but your life as well. So, let’s jump right into January’s Wedding Planning Challenge.
January Wedding Planning Challenge
Hands down, the problem I hear the most from couples who are planning their wedding is that they feel overwhelmed. It’s not surprising when you think about jumping head first into a world that until before you were engaged, you were never really a part of. You knew it existed and maybe even danced along the edges of it when you were a member of a friend or family’s wedding party, but you were never immersed in this world of weddings. There is a lot out there and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
So, let’s talk about overwhelm. What is overwhelm? Essentially, it is too much. It’s an excessive amount that creates an overpowering feeling. It’s too much of anything or of everything. You feel weighed down, crushed even by the sheer quantity of stuff (whatever that stuff may be). What is considered overwhelming can be different for different people and can come at different times in the planning process. It can take the form of ideas on wedding blogs and Pinterest or it can take the form of vendors or take the form of planning advice.
Here is our solution to overwhelm: Narrow the field. Stop looking everywhere at everything and instead, focus. Reduce the mass quantities of stuff. Be selective and make it manageable.
Step 1: First think about what overwhelms you. What about wedding planning right now overwhelms you? Be specific and honest. Is it your mother? Is it your budget? Is it not knowing who to hire? Is it not knowing how to come up with ideas? Is it not knowing how to cut your guest list? Is it not knowing where to buy your shoes? Is it not having enough time? Write down each item that is making you feel overwhelmed.
Step 2: Now look at the first item on your list and write down why that item makes you feel overwhelmed. Then ask yourself again, why? Do this a few times to each answer you write down. For example, if it’s your mother, maybe you feel overwhelmed because she’s constantly emailing you with ideas she has. And the reason this makes you feel overwhelmed is because she sends you all different kinds of stuff all the time. And the reason this makes you feel overwhelmed is because it reminds you of all the things you need to do.
Step 3: Now that you know why you are overwhelmed, think about what would make that feeling go away. What would lift that heavy feeling off your shoulders? The goal here is to brainstorm a few solutions that could eliminate the problem completely or, at least, reduce it to something that is more manageable. If we take the mother example again, a solution could be to have all your mother’s emails filter to a folder for you to look at when you are ready. Or a solution is to talk to her about the emails and set up a system where you prompt her when you need help on an item.
Step 4: Repeat steps 2 and 3 with each item on your list.
Step 5: Now pick a solution for each item from your brainstorm by picking the one that feels the best. Pick the one that feels good to you, the one that gives you a sense of relief and then put it into action. The best way to get out from under the weight of overwhelm is to do something about it. You’ll feel better just by working towards a solution. And if your first solution doesn’t quite work, try your second or your third until the overwhelm from that item is gone. If none of your solutions are working, revisit your why and dig a little bit deeper. Your why needs to align with your solution, so if your why is off, then your solution won’t solve it.
Step 6: Share your successes in a comment below or on social media using #weddingplanningchallenge! We want to hear what you’ve done to get rid of your overwhelm and what you gained out of kicking overwhelm to the curb. And if you are still struggling, let us know what problem you are facing and we’ll do all we can to help.
I know, overwhelm is no joke. I didn’t go easy on you with our first challenge, but that’s because I know things can change for the better and your wedding planning can be happier. Feeling overwhelmed is a big problem, but when you solve it you’ll get a big smile on your face. So, I challenge you to make your wedding planning more joyful and apply this solution every time you feel overwhelmed. Work at it and it will make a difference. And don’t forget to share your success story, I can’t wait to hear all about your wins (because you will)!
If you want even more personal help with your wedding planning and eliminating that overwhelming feeling, contact us today.