Great question! Invites can be confusing and there are so many invite questions I get all the time that I should probably do a whole series on it. But, let’s answer your question specifically.
So, there are two places where you would indicate to your guests who is invited. The first is the envelope. When you address the envelope you’d say, “Mr. Jon Snow” if it’s just the one person invited, or you’d say “Mr. Jon Snow and Guest” if they get a plus one. If you know who they’d be bringing (e.g. a significant other) then you should put their actual name on the envelope as opposed to just the word guest. So, putting the guest’s name on the envelope is the formal way to invite them because who the envelope is addressed to is who is getting the honor of the invitation.
However, some people don’t take the time to really read the envelope, so to make things perfectly clear it’s also good to indicate the number of invitees on the RSVP. Beneath the blank line where the guest fills out their name, you’d have a line below it that says something like, “We have reserved __ seats in your honor” and then what you do is fill in the number for each invite. You can, of course, play with the wording to fit with your particular wedding invitations, but this way there is no confusion on how many people are invited. Doing these 2 steps will politely let your guests know who and how many people are invited and prevent any awkward conversations as you tally your RSVPs.
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