Q: How much should we accommodate our guests/family/friends in our wedding decisions?
Every week we get such great questions and this is a particularly good one. Couples quite often struggle between what they want and what other people want, mainly their families. This can affect your wedding decisions on everything from the size of the wedding (guest list), to the time frame to the location to the cake.
I tell my clients that you should only be accommodating to a degree. Meaning, if the accommodation is for someone you have to have at the wedding (e.g. your immediate family, favorite Uncle, best friend etc…) and this accommodation allows them to be there, then you need to take that into account. Outside of people not being able to attend, I think you should have the wedding you want, not the wedding your family wants. The wedding is a celebration of the two of you and your love and it should be the day you want it to be. Keep your foot down and do it your way.
There is one caveat to this thought which is if your parents are paying for the wedding, they do get a bigger say. Hopefully they will want you to have your wedding, but if they are particularly involved and/or opinionated then I suggest you pick your battles. Fight for the things that are important to you and the ones you care less about you can give to them. You don’t want to end up arguing all the time and ruining your relationships. A wedding and the planning of a wedding should be a happy time, so be happy.
And if you need some wedding planning help, send us your questions! We want you to have a happy time planning your wedding, so let us help you do that.